You have to make time for the important things and people in your life. A simple pot of tea in the afternoon or a kind text message really means the world to me. Lately, however I have become quite miserly with the effort that I make for certain people. I have stopped making an effort or finding time for people that don't make any time or put in any effort for me.
I have discovered that some people are happy to take up your time as long as it is of no expense or inconvenience to them, but as soon as you ask them to extend themselves or be involved with you, then they are not interested. God forbid they have to travel or make an effort! Suddenly they're too busy, and I'm basically done with that shit.
I am always organising get togethers, extending my home to others and trying to make time to catch up with people, but not anymore! I refuse to extend myself to people that don't make any effort anymore, I'm done with it! It is the worst feeling in the world when you realize that you are only a fair weather friend or relative, and I have enough awesome people in my life to know that I don't need to be punching myself in the head over people that don't give two shits about me.
You wouldn't believe the horrid shit that some people have done to me because they haven't had the balls to just say they didn't want to see me. I have had people actually tell me that they couldn't attend things that were really important to me because they had to work, and then had them accidentally call me that evening from home to chat because they had forgotten that they had told me that they were working! WTF? How insulting is that?
I have also had people cut me off mid-offering and extending my home to them for a number of events and possible get togethers because they were too busy and then had them not ever following up for a future get together. Mind you, these are people that I have never said no to either, not ever! I am always at everything that they invite me to, every single time. Sometimes they even arrange things behind my back and then tell me about it as an afterthought and then wonder why I would prefer to skip it.
I have been sent bullshit 'catch up' messages many times that were just hollow crapola, never to be followed up, even when these people have had time off. And even more insulting is when they pass through town or visit Ballarat to shop and have days out and never drop in, not ever, not even once, and I'm not supposed to feel even a little bit put out or offended by that? I honestly don't know why I have ever bothered really, these people clearly don't really want me in their lives at all.
I'm sick of it! If someone doesn't want to be in your life they should have the balls to admit it, and if they do want you in their lives then they need to make an effort - because that's how these things work. Two way street people, two way street!
Release Date: 2016
Rating: MA 15+
Running Time: 137 mins
My favourite drama of 2016, and an incredibly moving story that made me reach for the box of tissues on more than one occasion. This movie felt so real to me, that after it ended, I just wanted more. The characters in Manchester by the Sea are so good and so completely fleshed out that you really feel like you are a part of the process. Written and directed by Kenneth Lonergan, this film is incredibly good and gets a well deserved Hall of Fame - 5 Chili Peppers from me.
When Lee Chandler's brother suddenly passes away he finds himself thrust back into the community of Manchester. He learns that he is expected to become guardian to his brother's teenage son, but the ghosts of his past have made him bitter, isolated and unable to cope with responsibility.
Casey Affleck is absolutely astounding as Lee Chandler, portraying the grief stricken loner with heartbreaking sincerity. It was a real shame that Affleck's Best Actor Oscar win for Manchester by the Sea was marred by controversy in regards to Affleck's inappropriate behaviours, because we now all know him as 'that talented creep.'
However, it must be said that the film is not Affleck's alone, and there are so many other reasons to love this film. Firstly, for the incredible and beautiful writing and directing from Lonergan, secondly for the amazing supporting cast especially Michelle Williams who doesn't get nearly enough screen time and lastly for the overall experience of this film. This movie is an experience, a deep and emotional one that you won't forget quickly.
FINAL SAY: I can't beat it. I can't beat it. I'm sorry.
5 Chili Peppers