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Breaking Up is Hard to Do

8/9/2019

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It's almost been ten days since our Zoe arrived back home after breaking up with her fiance and partner of 8 years Lachlainn. The news came as a bit of a shock to us all, but maybe I just didn't want to see the problems because I wanted to believe that Zoe was happy, but in truth, she wasn't. Looking back on these things with hindsight you can always see the cracks and chips in clarity but at the time you are just blinded by what you want to see. It is always like this with breakups of any kind I think, and even though the clarity is there, it really doesn't make breaking up any easier to do. 
Zoe has been strong and organised with this break up to within an inch of her life, which is what we have all come to expect from our Zoe. She's tough and she strong, and it does take great strength to admit that things aren't working and then to also walk away from them. Zoe leaves behind eight years of memories and most of her formative years experiences with Lachlainn since they practically grew up together. Zoe was only 14 years old when she and Lachlainn got together, so it is both fair and probably to be expected that they have just grown apart as time has progressed, and we really should have seen this coming to be honest, but as I said hindsight is 20/20. 
I think back to some of the douche bags that I was hooking up with when I was only 14 years old and...jeez! There is no way that I could probably even stand to be in the same room with some of those weirdos let alone in a relationship with them. Not that I am saying that Lachlainn is a douchebag or anything, but the likelihood of wanting someone that you hooked up with when you were a kid as an adult are probably slim to none.
Craig and I got together when I was just short of 18 and we have had more dramatic episodes than Days of Our Lives on the way to eventually finding happiness and contentment together. We broke up numerous times, fought like we were on the set of Rocky, got regularly and spectacularly wasted together like we were Sid and Nancy at an Irish stag do and eventually popped out the other end (somehow) still together.
And I'm not going to lie to you, it was really hard to stay together when we were young, it felt downright impossible at times. We were both the youngest of five children so we were both used to having our own ways and we had no idea how to make a relationship work, we were both headstrong, opinionated brats. However, unlike Zoe and Lachlainn we were already married and had a home mortgage and a child before we were even 25 so we felt like we had to stick it out through thick and thin, it was complicated. Fortunately for Zoe and Lachlainn they didn't have any of these responsibilities to make them feel tethered together, so breaking up became amicable and quite simple really, well as simple as breakups can be if that's any consolation. 
Breaking up, no matter how clean, is not easy. You are never  just leaving another person, but also leaving a part of yourself and a way of being that you may have grown accustomed to. You leave behind who you once were when you were with that person and you are technically re-inventing yourself into another version of yourself. A single version of yourself, which will be hard for Zoe because she hasn't really experienced being single yet, it's totally foreign territory. However, as we all know, foreign territory although a little scary at times, can also be exciting, exhilarating and empowering. And if anyone is going to be able to stand on their own two feet, I have absolutely no doubt that Zoe will. She has more strong independent woman in her than Sinead O'Connor and I really believe that although it is sad that she has broken up with Lachlainn that this will be her time to shine and really come into her own. 
Sometimes we need a clean break to kick start a new life, and sometimes that opportunity can only be seized by letting go of an old and outmoded version of ourselves. Sometimes letting go of people in our lives that are holding us back from meeting our true potential is only sad for a short time before we can fluff up our own wings again and take flight on our own. And I cannot deny that the very selfish and motherly parts of me are genuinely  excited to have my darling daughter back in the nest for me to fuss over once again. Here together we can support her, help her to heal the broken parts of herself and then help her to move on to the next big adventure that life has in store for her. Zoe deserves all of that and more and now it is her chance to fly solo, put herself first and do whatever she wants to do. 
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SHIRLEY VALENTINE
Release Date: 1989
Rating: MA 15+
Running Time: 108 mins 
After dreaming of going to Greece since I was 12, this movie really struck a chord for me, and not just because of it's beautiful depictions of a greek island lifestyle but also because of the strong independent charm of Shirley Valentine.
Shirley Valentine is a tale about a woman that is just plain fed up with the monotony and predictability of her life, her family take her for granted and she has become sad and drab. So she packs up her bags and heads to Greece for a holiday, in an attempt to find some sun, sea and solution to her woes. 
Is there any romance? Well a little, but this film is mostly focused on falling in love with Greece and yourself. It is a movie about self empowerment and having the guts to step away from a life that is no longer offering you any happiness. 
I adored the ballsy and yet clearly beaten down character of Shirley, portrayed perfectly by Pauline Collins, who not only really looked like a middle aged housewife but played her role of Shirley with great conviction, enough conviction to land herself a Best Actress BAFTA.  This is a movie for all of those women out there that are sick of waiting for their families to treat them with the respect that they deserve; it is all about breaking free. 
FINAL SAY: I'm not saying he's bad, my fella. He's just no bleedin' good! 
3 Chilli Peppers

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Llewellyn AJ
15/9/2019 12:33:48

Poor thing! Glad she’s back in the bosom of those that love her, you hug her hard SW!

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Spicywatch
22/9/2019 12:30:58

We're so happy to have her back Llewellyn AJ x

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