I saw a list on Pinterest yesterday called 'No-Brainer Ways to Challenge Yourself Every Day' which in a way does slightly sound like an oxymoron in itself, however being me and always being keen to find new ways to improve myself, I did peruse the list and I really should've listened to my first thought about the oxymoron thing, because that was five minutes of my life that I am never going to get back again.
I have to say, they probably should've called the list 'Shit You Should Already be Doing in Your Life: A List for Idiots' Now that may sound harsh to you, but trust me when I say that there was nothing to be gained from reading that list and there wasn't anything on that list that, if you have half a brain, you aren't already doing or attempting to do on a regular basis.
Do we really need a list that reminds us to:
10. Cook a meal a day
11. Draw a picture
12. Read a book
13. Put down your phone and observe the world
25. Tackle chores
31. Exercise
What's next? Breathe in and out, use the toilet, have a shower at least once a day, go to bed at the end of every day? Kind of obvious stuff I would imagine.
And what about these little chestnuts of information that none of us could live without when we are setting out to challenge ourselves:
16. Ask questions
18. Set a goal
23. Quit a habit
30. Turn off the TV
Whaaat? Who wrote this sage advice list? The Guru Swarmie or Jesus Christ himself because this is AMAZING stuff?!?!
But wait it gets even better, there are some suggestions that even sounded downright dangerous to me and were clearly designed for idiots that want to really push the boundaries of self challenge. Here's a couple of my favourite 'dreadful advice' tips from the list:
6. Talk with a stranger
14. Make eye contact with people you pass on the street
21. Get over a fear
22. Smile even if you're not feeling it
Number 6 and 14 are just asking for trouble in my mind, I mean is this a list on how to be misinterpreted for a stalker or is it a list on how to get one? And smile even when you're not feeling it does not sound very healthy to me. Surely that is completely counterproductive to a person's general wellbeing, mental health and emotional awareness? Just walk around smiling even if you're utterly miserable? And let's not downplay number 21 which very simply says - get over a fear, just like that, not that hard, just get over some deeply seated and probably deeply rooted fear that you have, shouldn't take very long, about as long as ohh, lets say - turning off the TV?
Don't get me wrong, I am all for challenging yourself, but the list was called 'No-Brainer' ways to Challenge Yourself Every Day, I don't really see how quitting a habit or overcoming a fear is 'No Brainer.' That is bloody far from no-brainer, and can't really placed onto a list that includes turn off the TV and read a book, can it?
Anyway, enough of a rant. I am just genuinely tired of seeing these so called challenging/ self improvement lists everywhere that are either dumb as dog shit obvious or ridiculously unattainable. Where is the happy medium I ask? I would much rather see lists called 'self care' or 'self kindness' any day of the week, because being gentle, nurturing and kind to yourself is actually a massive and ongoing challenge that we all face, and it should always come first in my mind. Ditch the unnecessary challenges and embrace the best of yourself, I guarantee that you'll be much happier in the long run.
I have to say, they probably should've called the list 'Shit You Should Already be Doing in Your Life: A List for Idiots' Now that may sound harsh to you, but trust me when I say that there was nothing to be gained from reading that list and there wasn't anything on that list that, if you have half a brain, you aren't already doing or attempting to do on a regular basis.
Do we really need a list that reminds us to:
10. Cook a meal a day
11. Draw a picture
12. Read a book
13. Put down your phone and observe the world
25. Tackle chores
31. Exercise
What's next? Breathe in and out, use the toilet, have a shower at least once a day, go to bed at the end of every day? Kind of obvious stuff I would imagine.
And what about these little chestnuts of information that none of us could live without when we are setting out to challenge ourselves:
16. Ask questions
18. Set a goal
23. Quit a habit
30. Turn off the TV
Whaaat? Who wrote this sage advice list? The Guru Swarmie or Jesus Christ himself because this is AMAZING stuff?!?!
But wait it gets even better, there are some suggestions that even sounded downright dangerous to me and were clearly designed for idiots that want to really push the boundaries of self challenge. Here's a couple of my favourite 'dreadful advice' tips from the list:
6. Talk with a stranger
14. Make eye contact with people you pass on the street
21. Get over a fear
22. Smile even if you're not feeling it
Number 6 and 14 are just asking for trouble in my mind, I mean is this a list on how to be misinterpreted for a stalker or is it a list on how to get one? And smile even when you're not feeling it does not sound very healthy to me. Surely that is completely counterproductive to a person's general wellbeing, mental health and emotional awareness? Just walk around smiling even if you're utterly miserable? And let's not downplay number 21 which very simply says - get over a fear, just like that, not that hard, just get over some deeply seated and probably deeply rooted fear that you have, shouldn't take very long, about as long as ohh, lets say - turning off the TV?
Don't get me wrong, I am all for challenging yourself, but the list was called 'No-Brainer' ways to Challenge Yourself Every Day, I don't really see how quitting a habit or overcoming a fear is 'No Brainer.' That is bloody far from no-brainer, and can't really placed onto a list that includes turn off the TV and read a book, can it?
Anyway, enough of a rant. I am just genuinely tired of seeing these so called challenging/ self improvement lists everywhere that are either dumb as dog shit obvious or ridiculously unattainable. Where is the happy medium I ask? I would much rather see lists called 'self care' or 'self kindness' any day of the week, because being gentle, nurturing and kind to yourself is actually a massive and ongoing challenge that we all face, and it should always come first in my mind. Ditch the unnecessary challenges and embrace the best of yourself, I guarantee that you'll be much happier in the long run.
LEAVING LAS VEGAS
Release Date: 1995
Rating: R 18+
Running Time: 111 mins
Directed by Mike Figgis, Leaving Las Vegas delivers something completely depairing, deeply touching and absolutely unforgettable. Nicholas Cage deservingly won the Best Actor Award at the 1996 Academy Awards for his striking portrayal of Ben, a man in the final stages of a complete breakdown, and Elizabeth Shue, although nominated, didn't win the Best Actress Award; however, she is every bit as good as Cage here and demonstrates strong and previously unseen acting talent in her portrayal of Sera.
Under the bright lights of Las Vegas, Ben, a wayward alcoholic meets Sera, a deeply damaged prostitute. Together they discover mutual acceptance and find that they complete each other in the most unlikely of ways.
Probably the saddest and most disturbing romance movie that has ever been made, Leaving Las Vegas is certainly a tale of tragedy. From the opening scenes it is apparent that the outcomes are going to be grim, but the character development is second to none, the acting is first class and just like watching a slow motion car crash, it is impossible to turn away from.
FINAL SAY: You can never, never ask me to stop drinking.
4 Chilli Peppers
Release Date: 1995
Rating: R 18+
Running Time: 111 mins
Directed by Mike Figgis, Leaving Las Vegas delivers something completely depairing, deeply touching and absolutely unforgettable. Nicholas Cage deservingly won the Best Actor Award at the 1996 Academy Awards for his striking portrayal of Ben, a man in the final stages of a complete breakdown, and Elizabeth Shue, although nominated, didn't win the Best Actress Award; however, she is every bit as good as Cage here and demonstrates strong and previously unseen acting talent in her portrayal of Sera.
Under the bright lights of Las Vegas, Ben, a wayward alcoholic meets Sera, a deeply damaged prostitute. Together they discover mutual acceptance and find that they complete each other in the most unlikely of ways.
Probably the saddest and most disturbing romance movie that has ever been made, Leaving Las Vegas is certainly a tale of tragedy. From the opening scenes it is apparent that the outcomes are going to be grim, but the character development is second to none, the acting is first class and just like watching a slow motion car crash, it is impossible to turn away from.
FINAL SAY: You can never, never ask me to stop drinking.
4 Chilli Peppers
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