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Getting Off at the Next Station

23/7/2017

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I've been looking back over the last twenty-something years of my life. Winter is a time that leaves a lot of room for extra contemplation and reflection, and even a little revelation in this case. Keeping a daily journal really helps you to identify some of the paths that you tread back over as time goes by and it also helps you to identify the patterns of behaviour in others that you may have been missing as well.
I have kept some form of a diary or journal for pretty much all of my life. I record things daily, almost anything really; goings on, conversations, trips, thoughts, ideas, trials and tribulations; my journals are very personal and also very extensive. On average, I would spend around 15-20 minutes every day writing in my journal, so as you would imagine, the content builds up quickly. I have volumes of the stuff, some of it from way, way back; and just the other day I had a flick back through some of the archives.
I was quite surprised, and perhaps even a little amused, to see that many of the feelings that I am having now, are almost identical to the ones that I was having around 20 odd years ago.
 And equally as interesting, is the insanely predictable patterns of behaviours that some people in my life have demonstrated over the years, I swear that you could you just about set your calendar to it, it's that consistent. 
I came to realise after reading those old scribblings of mine, that I have come full circle with a couple of the long term relationships that I had really invested in. It's like I left the platform for a new destination some twenty odd years ago with these people and then I re-arrived back at exactly the same place that I had began the journey from, all those years ago. Truth was, that I was never actually getting anywhere in those relationships, no matter what I did or how much I tried. Even though I thought I was progressing, I was never actually progressing at all, I was just looping back around, and I am honestly really pissed at myself for allowing myself to be hoodwinked all over again. 
How I missed all of the obvious signs that I was getting nowhere is so stupid, because hindsight is 20/20 and looking back at my journal notes, well, the signposts were most certainly there. I suppose that I just didn't want to see the painful truth, after all, no-one wants to believe that what they mistook for love was actually completely fake and disingenuous because that truth is just way too painful to stomach. So, I didn't see it, I was a fool, and I allowed myself to depart on a train that took me back to the start. Right back to the beginning where I was filled with a lack of faith and trust, but was willing to try again. How stupid and naive I was!
Over the years, some things in your life will change, some things will shift a little and then some things will stay exactly the same way that they have always been, and all you have to do is accept it. So I willingly accept it this time, these relationships are never going to change. No amount of time or investment will ever make them right, they are doomed to loop around to the start every single time. I was wasting my time, it was all a pointless exercise, and I can't believe that I ever let myself trust them again in the first place. 
So now I am finally free of it, free of the train of lies, judgements, false feelings and fake love. Free to board a new train, a better one with better people that won't make me feel like I don't matter, won't tell me I'm a bad person, won't betray my trust and won't waste my time for another twenty years looping around in circles desperately hoping to be accepted. They say that you should never chase anyone for love, affection or attention, because if it isn't given freely than it isn't worth having; and I have well and truly tired of the chase, I have learnt a lot from this experience and I will never ever chase again. 
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T2 TRAINSPOTTING
Release Date: 2017
Rating: R 18+
Running Time: 117 mins

Not nearly as visceral and gritty as the first installment, but twenty years on, you would kind of hope not. Refreshingly, T2 Trainspotting is not trying to recreate the original  Trainspotting experience, instead it is building on top of those sturdy foundations and presents with a far more mature and contemplative tone than its youthful predecessor. 
Mark Renton (Ewan McGregor) returns to Edinburgh for the first time in twenty years. His reunification with Spud, Sick Boy and Begbie are met with both joy and strife, as resentments and confusions arise in regards to the way that Renton left town all those years ago. 
Directed by Danny Boyle and based on the screen play Porno, the same ensemble cast reprise their roles again; only this time there is a nostalgia and a sense of responsibility that was certainly lacking from the original Trainspotting. Is it better than the first? I don't think it's better, but it is different and it is most definitely a fascinating character study that kept me interested. 
FINAL SAY: First there was an opportunity, then there was a betrayal. 
3.5 Chilli Peppers

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Georgia
23/7/2017 18:15:00

I can't wait to walk with you in to the next 20 years and constantly remind you how amazing my life is because you are in it. Keep doing you girlfriend, because you are just so good. X

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Spicywatch
29/11/2018 18:06:41

Gosh, only just saw this comment, thanks so much Georgia, what a lovely thing to say x

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