People don't want the world to know about the things that they are getting wrong, they want the world to see them striving, not surviving. And honestly, I don't think that there is anything wrong with that, fake it until you make it and focus on the wins, it's not a bad way to be. However, we all really know that no-one has it all together all of the time and that we all have work to do on ourselves from time to time - or my case; most of the time! If you have read my blog posts more than once, you will quickly work out that I am more than happy to let the world know when I stumble and falter and it is often, very often actually. The most important thing to focus on when you do have moments of doubt, self loathing or turmoil is what you need to do in order to lift yourself back up again.
I recently stumbled across this terrific trouble shooting guide from @anxiousheartguide that outlines where you may need to invest some time and effort based on the area in your life that that you are struggling in. Now like all the advice/ opinion that I post on my blog, none of it is fool proof or guaranteed to fix you or your problems. However, in saying that, it certainly won't hurt you to consider the options and if, like me, you have nothing to lose then you too may find this little tip sheet pretty helpful. Thrash it or trash it? It is totally up to you.
TROUBLE SHOOTING GUIDE TO KNOWING WHAT YOU NEED TO WORK ON:
STRUGGLE: clingy or needy behaviours
WHERE THE WORK IS: independence and self worth
STRUGGLE: overanalysing and worrying
WHERE THE WORK IS: mindfulness, meditation and journaling
STRUGGLE: overprioritizing other
WHERE THE WORK IS: self worth and therapy
STRUGGLE: inability to self sooth or regulate
WHERE THE WORK IS: therapy, EFT, somatics
STRUGGLE: Intolerance of partner availability
WHERE THE WORK IS: hobbies, personal interests
STRUGGLE: losing yourself in a relationship
WHERE THE WORK IS: finding and committing to your values, passions
STRUGGLE: dependency and co-dependency
WHERE THE WORK IS: independence and interdependence
STRUGGLE: Intolerance to being alone
WHERE THE WORK IS: solo passion projects and friendships
STRUGGLE: Timidity and lack of confidence
WHERE THE WORK IS: Assertiveness education and classes
WHERE THE WORK IS: sharing self in increasing increments
STRUGGLE: Fear of criticism or rejection
WHERE THE WORK IS: Vulnerability and open communication
STRUGGLE: Need for constant reassurance
WHERE THE WORK IS: Trust building and self esteem
STRUGGLE: Moodiness, impulsivity, instability
WHERE THE WORK IS: Therapy, meditation and mindfulness
STRUGGLE: Jealousy or insecurity
WHERE THE WORK IS: vulnerability and open communication
STRUGGLE: stuffing down words, needs or upsets
WHERE THE WORK IS: open communication and trust
STRUGGLE: Dealing with the bullshit patriarchy
WHERE THE WORK IS: Watch the Barbie movie and have a laugh!
(Lol - that one was mine!)
Release Date: 2023
Running Time: 114 mins
A fantasy comedy directed by Greta Gerwig, who wrote the screenplay with Noah Baumbach; Barbie, which is based around the Mattel fashion dolls called Barbie, hits all the right notes and delivers something that is extremely funny, undeniably woke and fantastically pink in every way.
Barbie (Margot Robbie) and all the other Barbie versions have the most perfect life in Barbieland. It's all smiles and parties in this matriarchal wonderland where Beach Ken (Ryan Gosling) and all the other Ken's exist only to make the Barbie's happy. However, when Barbie gets pulled into the real world due to an outside influence, she discovers that she has not been the perfect role model in the real world that she thought she was. And Ken, who rides along with her, discovers how the patriarchy works, and soon everything in Barbie's world begins to fall apart.
This is laugh out loud material from start to end. The costumes, sets and designs are dazzling, the soundtrack is fun and thoughtfully put together and Robbie and Gosling are hilariously great as Barbie and Ken. What I wasn't expecting was for it to be so genuinely moving and poignant about the purpose of being a female role model; there is a genuinely great message being conveyed here that will hopefully not be lost on younger audiences. And Ken's grappling of the what patriarchy looks like in extreme was also really well fleshed out and explored.
Not just a pink flash in the pan, Barbie is a movie that people will go back to and play again and again for the laughs and the tears, not unlike the beloved doll herself.
FINAL SAY: Humans have only one ending. Ideas live forever.
4 Chilli Peppers