Without any input or opinion blocking my judgement, I have finally been able to see her as a woman, as a person in her own right, and not just as my mother. And I feel like I am gaining a deeper understanding of who she is now, and I have really been enjoying the time that we have been sharing together.
It has been so interesting and liberating to hear her side of so many stories that I have heard through the voices of others over the years; and it has made me feel bad for some of the harsh judgements that I have made about her in the past. It has actually been so nice to be able to just be myself around her and for the first time in my adult life I feel very close to my mother and I feel like I have turned a corner in our relationship. This is a wonderful thing to experience with her in her twilight years and I am glad that I have had this chance to really know her properly.
There has been much to be gleaned from the quality time that I am sharing with both of my parents actually. They have a lot of knowledge and wisdom to share and they have reached a point in their lives where they no longer have the energy for anything complicated or problematic, they just want to spend quality time with me as well and I believe that this has brought a great deal of peace to our relationship.
I can honestly say that I am not looking for them to be anything more than what and who they really are, I don't want them to feel like they need to edit themselves or behave in any particular way, I just want them to be able to relax and be themselves around me. I accept them completely, warts and all, and I feel like they have reached that point with me as well. It feels quite wonderful to give and receive love with them both without any expectations or preconceptions of how things should be. It is really quite zen and it is so genuinely lovely for us all.
Release Date: 2017
Rating: R 18+
Running Time: 121 mins
We all know that director Darren Aronofsky likes to push people to the brink of their comfort zone, so I wasn't expecting an easy ride from this movie in any way, shape or form. And it was just as well that I wasn't, because Mother! is clearly going to be the most controversial and talked about film of the year. With its intense biblical allegories, disturbing depictions of violence and mind bending storyline, this is not a movie for the faint hearted, but for people that like to be challenged by the movies that they watch, this is nothing short of a masterpiece.
He (Javier Bardem) and Mother (Jennifer Lawrence) share a secluded country house. He is an author with writer's block and Mother busies herself with home renovations. One day Man turns up, closely followed by his wife Woman and things start to get out of hand very quickly. As the serenity of their home is compromised, He and Mother conceive a child and He writes a book that changes the world forever.
The last hour of this movie is so visceral and intense that I found myself having both an emotional and a physical response to its content. I doubt that anyone that sees this film will not feel affected by its content, which although at times is intensely vicious, it is also a true work of vision. Mother! will most definitely divide audiences, that much was evident from the immediate responses that I heard in the cinema on the day that I saw it. The film engrossed some, enraging others and completely flew over the heads of some as well, but everyone certainly had an intense response to it one way or another.
I loved it, the acting was absolutely faultless; Jennifer Lawrence acted her heart out and deserves an Oscar nomination for her stirring and deeply committed effort to the role of Mother. The storyline is intriguing, original and intensely gripping, and the cinematography is just terrific. This is another feather in Aronofsky's writer/director hat as far as I am concerned, and I know that I will be talking about this film for many years to come.
FINAL SAY: I am I. And you? You are home.
4.5 Chilli Peppers