Is love at first sight really a thing? Books, movies and real life relationships have been based on this theory of the possibility of falling madly in love with someone upon the very first viewing of them. Personally, I think that theory is a load of malarkey! I think that people confuse the laws of attraction for love all of the time, and that is why so many relationships just don't last. Once that first rush of attraction is replaced with the reality of who this new found muse is, well sometimes that reality just doesn't match up to the initial impression that they gave off when you first saw them.
That first rush of blood to the head when you see someone attractive is what relationships are often started from, but that feeling is just lust not love, it's your body physically responding to someone that is quite possibly a good physically match for you. The love stuff comes later, much later. Couples that say that they fell in love at first sight are daft; they did not fall in love at first sight at all. They got the hots for each other upon first sighting, hooked up and then continued to enjoy a mutual appreciation of each other, which in turn, with quality time and shared experience, they really fell in love. However saying all that doesn't sound nearly as romantic as "we fell in love at first sight" so I just let people say it when they feel like they need to, but in my head I'm thinking otherwise.
It is possible to believe that you are in love with someone that you have just met, but you would have to be pretty dim witted to believe that that feeling of attraction was love. True love cannot be attained by one glance, true love is something that needs to be cultivated, cared for and tended to over time; like pretty much every other thing in your life that is worth having.
I do believe that love can surprise you though. For instance, we have all met someone that we didn't find all that attractive upon first sight, but then after getting to know them we see something else shine through and we fall in love them for that reason. Which really proves that physically attraction is not the only thing can spark love, and probably not the best reason to run off and proclaim your undying love for either.
I absolutely despised Craig the first time that I met him, I thought that he was a stupid grunt. I didn't even speak to him for about 2 years after that first meeting because I was certain that he was dickhead and that we had zero in common. I was 14 and he was 16, so we were basically kids, and Craig really was a dickhead back then if I'm being honest about it. Anyway, a couple of years down the track and things had changed, I started to see him in a new way and it wasn't just because his biceps had filled out either, he had actually changed and so had I and something started to brew. It had to brew in the background, because I actually had a boyfriend, who was one of his friends, but brew on it did and eventually we got together, and the rest is history. 27 years we have been together, and we have been through some shit and some sugar in our time, but we love each other now more than ever, even if we do occasionally fight like we are on the set of Clash of the Titans!
To sum it all up, I don't believe in love at first sight, I believe in infatuation at first sight. I believe that just like they say, you can't hurry love, because the really good long lasting kinds of love take years to create, but that is one of the best things about love, it isn't easy and anything that good shouldn't be too easy, but it is totally worth all of the effort.
That first rush of blood to the head when you see someone attractive is what relationships are often started from, but that feeling is just lust not love, it's your body physically responding to someone that is quite possibly a good physically match for you. The love stuff comes later, much later. Couples that say that they fell in love at first sight are daft; they did not fall in love at first sight at all. They got the hots for each other upon first sighting, hooked up and then continued to enjoy a mutual appreciation of each other, which in turn, with quality time and shared experience, they really fell in love. However saying all that doesn't sound nearly as romantic as "we fell in love at first sight" so I just let people say it when they feel like they need to, but in my head I'm thinking otherwise.
It is possible to believe that you are in love with someone that you have just met, but you would have to be pretty dim witted to believe that that feeling of attraction was love. True love cannot be attained by one glance, true love is something that needs to be cultivated, cared for and tended to over time; like pretty much every other thing in your life that is worth having.
I do believe that love can surprise you though. For instance, we have all met someone that we didn't find all that attractive upon first sight, but then after getting to know them we see something else shine through and we fall in love them for that reason. Which really proves that physically attraction is not the only thing can spark love, and probably not the best reason to run off and proclaim your undying love for either.
I absolutely despised Craig the first time that I met him, I thought that he was a stupid grunt. I didn't even speak to him for about 2 years after that first meeting because I was certain that he was dickhead and that we had zero in common. I was 14 and he was 16, so we were basically kids, and Craig really was a dickhead back then if I'm being honest about it. Anyway, a couple of years down the track and things had changed, I started to see him in a new way and it wasn't just because his biceps had filled out either, he had actually changed and so had I and something started to brew. It had to brew in the background, because I actually had a boyfriend, who was one of his friends, but brew on it did and eventually we got together, and the rest is history. 27 years we have been together, and we have been through some shit and some sugar in our time, but we love each other now more than ever, even if we do occasionally fight like we are on the set of Clash of the Titans!
To sum it all up, I don't believe in love at first sight, I believe in infatuation at first sight. I believe that just like they say, you can't hurry love, because the really good long lasting kinds of love take years to create, but that is one of the best things about love, it isn't easy and anything that good shouldn't be too easy, but it is totally worth all of the effort.
ANNIE HALL
Release Date: 1977
Rating: M
Running Time: 93 mins
Winner of the 1978 Academy Award for Best Picture, Woody Allen's Annie Hall is in a league of it's own when it comes to rom-coms. With it's sharp blend of humour and poignant relationship philosophy, this is clearly Allen's most success and dynamic movie, and after a recent viewing, I can assure you that it has not lost any of its punch 40 years on.
A successful and neurotic comedian named Alvy Singer (Woody Allen) reflects on his relationship with a charming and ditzy performer named Annie Hall (Diane Keaton).
The role of Annie was actually written for Keaton, and she delivers it flawlessly, showcasing the performance of her career and earning herself the Academy Award for Best Actress. Woody Allen also snagged the Best Director and Original Screenplay Awards along side of Marshall Brickman for Annie Hall, as well as numerous other Golden Globes and BAFTA awards. Enough said really, this is most definitely a must see, classic, romance-comedy, so make the time to see it.
FINAL SAY: I guess we keep going through it because, uh, most of us... need the eggs.
4 Chilli Peppers
Release Date: 1977
Rating: M
Running Time: 93 mins
Winner of the 1978 Academy Award for Best Picture, Woody Allen's Annie Hall is in a league of it's own when it comes to rom-coms. With it's sharp blend of humour and poignant relationship philosophy, this is clearly Allen's most success and dynamic movie, and after a recent viewing, I can assure you that it has not lost any of its punch 40 years on.
A successful and neurotic comedian named Alvy Singer (Woody Allen) reflects on his relationship with a charming and ditzy performer named Annie Hall (Diane Keaton).
The role of Annie was actually written for Keaton, and she delivers it flawlessly, showcasing the performance of her career and earning herself the Academy Award for Best Actress. Woody Allen also snagged the Best Director and Original Screenplay Awards along side of Marshall Brickman for Annie Hall, as well as numerous other Golden Globes and BAFTA awards. Enough said really, this is most definitely a must see, classic, romance-comedy, so make the time to see it.
FINAL SAY: I guess we keep going through it because, uh, most of us... need the eggs.
4 Chilli Peppers
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