There are certain life situations and conditions that really raise my anxiety, tweak my nerves and just plain annoy the shit out of me. I'm 100% aware of my own triggers, but it is impossible to completely avoid all of one's triggers all of the time, so instead I have adopted strategies and creative ways to cope with them when they happen, so that I don't fly off the handle like an irrational psycho like I used to do in the good old days.
Some things that really grind my gears and get my knickers in a twist (aside from the obvious ugly stuff like racism, poverty, sexism, abuse etc. that everyone who is sane hates) are things like:
Having too many things to focus on at one time.
Constant interruptions.
Manipulators.
People that want me to change.
The selfish and the delusional - sometimes mistaken for the young and the restless.
Criticism, conflict and lack of harmony.
People that dismiss my feelings.
People being fake or superficial - on the inside, cosmetic surgery doesn't bother me in the least.
People making assumptions.
Being yelled at.
People that are late.
Being around lots of people, especially at parties.
Not getting any down time.
Constant noise or loudness.
Lack of closure.
And that is really just the tip of the iceberg, I could go on for hours about the things that flip my burger, but what would be the good in that? You see it's not really about what makes you anxious or who makes you annoyed, it's all about how you cope with it. And I believe it all comes down to what you can control and what you cannot control.
If you can control what is stressing you out, then by God take control immediately and fix it! If you cannot control what is stressing you out then you have to get creative, you have to get some stellar coping skills and learn to channel your anxieties into something positive and fruitful. The only way that you can really do that is to truly get to know your own triggers by finding out what it is that makes you feel stressed out.
You have to know what you need to avoid to remain sane, what you need to learn to accept that is completely unavoidable and you especially need to know what you should push back against and wrestle to the ground. It's like pulling out weeds or 'tending to the garden of the soul.'
I myself am a great advocate of clothing and feeding my own demons, it's a practise that I indulge in regularly, and now I really know what is going to 'get me going' well before it gets too close to me. Yes siree, I know my own monsters alright and I know just what to do when one comes calling for me these days, and it isn't run in the opposite direction screaming anymore I can tell you that much. Nope, I'm all about staring down my monsters and facing them head on; because I may not be able to change them, but I do prefer to see them coming!
Some things that really grind my gears and get my knickers in a twist (aside from the obvious ugly stuff like racism, poverty, sexism, abuse etc. that everyone who is sane hates) are things like:
Having too many things to focus on at one time.
Constant interruptions.
Manipulators.
People that want me to change.
The selfish and the delusional - sometimes mistaken for the young and the restless.
Criticism, conflict and lack of harmony.
People that dismiss my feelings.
People being fake or superficial - on the inside, cosmetic surgery doesn't bother me in the least.
People making assumptions.
Being yelled at.
People that are late.
Being around lots of people, especially at parties.
Not getting any down time.
Constant noise or loudness.
Lack of closure.
And that is really just the tip of the iceberg, I could go on for hours about the things that flip my burger, but what would be the good in that? You see it's not really about what makes you anxious or who makes you annoyed, it's all about how you cope with it. And I believe it all comes down to what you can control and what you cannot control.
If you can control what is stressing you out, then by God take control immediately and fix it! If you cannot control what is stressing you out then you have to get creative, you have to get some stellar coping skills and learn to channel your anxieties into something positive and fruitful. The only way that you can really do that is to truly get to know your own triggers by finding out what it is that makes you feel stressed out.
You have to know what you need to avoid to remain sane, what you need to learn to accept that is completely unavoidable and you especially need to know what you should push back against and wrestle to the ground. It's like pulling out weeds or 'tending to the garden of the soul.'
I myself am a great advocate of clothing and feeding my own demons, it's a practise that I indulge in regularly, and now I really know what is going to 'get me going' well before it gets too close to me. Yes siree, I know my own monsters alright and I know just what to do when one comes calling for me these days, and it isn't run in the opposite direction screaming anymore I can tell you that much. Nope, I'm all about staring down my monsters and facing them head on; because I may not be able to change them, but I do prefer to see them coming!
A MONSTER CALLS
Release Date: 2016
Rating: PG
Running Time: 108 mins
Get your tissue box at the ready for this beautifully realised and highly emotional adaption of the fantasy novel of the same name by Patrick Ness. Praised for its themes, directing, performances and visual effects, A Monster Calls is a dark story that will leave you feeling like you have just been punched in the stomach when it ends, so make sure you are feeling brave before you tune in for this one.
12 year old Conor O'Malley is struggling with his terminally ill mother, his strict grandmother, his estranged father and an overbearing school bully. At the peak of his struggles a tree-like monster visits during the night, telling Conor that he will share three true stories with him and in return, Conor must share a fourth tale of his own, a story that will reveal his truth.
The entire cast are tremendously good here and have been really well cast; especially Liam Neeson as the Monster's voice, Sigourney Weaver as Conor's overbearing grandmother and Lewis MacDougall, who portrays young Conor with a heartbreaking sincerity.
If this film doesn't make you cry, then nothing will, it's a real tearjerker. Add all those deep feelings together with Liam Neeson's milky and melodic voice and you've got yourself an open flood gate people, beware! I sobbed like a baby.
FINAL SAY: Stories are wild animals...if you let them break loose, who knows what havoc they may wreak.
3.5 Chili peppers
Release Date: 2016
Rating: PG
Running Time: 108 mins
Get your tissue box at the ready for this beautifully realised and highly emotional adaption of the fantasy novel of the same name by Patrick Ness. Praised for its themes, directing, performances and visual effects, A Monster Calls is a dark story that will leave you feeling like you have just been punched in the stomach when it ends, so make sure you are feeling brave before you tune in for this one.
12 year old Conor O'Malley is struggling with his terminally ill mother, his strict grandmother, his estranged father and an overbearing school bully. At the peak of his struggles a tree-like monster visits during the night, telling Conor that he will share three true stories with him and in return, Conor must share a fourth tale of his own, a story that will reveal his truth.
The entire cast are tremendously good here and have been really well cast; especially Liam Neeson as the Monster's voice, Sigourney Weaver as Conor's overbearing grandmother and Lewis MacDougall, who portrays young Conor with a heartbreaking sincerity.
If this film doesn't make you cry, then nothing will, it's a real tearjerker. Add all those deep feelings together with Liam Neeson's milky and melodic voice and you've got yourself an open flood gate people, beware! I sobbed like a baby.
FINAL SAY: Stories are wild animals...if you let them break loose, who knows what havoc they may wreak.
3.5 Chili peppers
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