Don't you hate it when the world gives you an unexpected and swift slap in the face? You know how it works, we've all been there before; you're just cruising around feeling pretty good about your place in the world and then wallop, you get a kick to the head that makes your eyes water for a few days. Not a literal kick to the head, a figurative one, like a comment or something of the sort that makes you feel like shit about yourself. I had one last week, and it stung something awful if I'm being honest, but it happens from time to time and you just have to keep calm and carry on.
These types of things are great for checking in with your personal levels of resolve and your ability to weather less than pleasant tidings, but essentially I am just trying to find the positive, mostly they are just crap and when they come from someone that you work with they can make you lose your mojo in the workplace.
Places of business are notorious for slapping the confidence and ego off people, I have never had a job yet where someone didn't challenge me personally or try to assert their authority over me in a negative way, no job comes with a perfectly designed staff at your disposal. Most workplaces are actually very competitive and things can get pretty nasty, but mostly I don't get very many slaps where I work, just a sneaky one from time to time. Perhaps that is why they sting so badly, the lack of frequency and unpredictability could be what makes them so jarring.
In general though, I take criticism very, very badly. I can't stand it when someone has a poke at me, it really gets to me. I am not even a fan of constructive criticism, it's still bloody criticism isn't it? So I don't want to hear about it! I like to live in my own rose coloured bubble as much as I can, but everyone knows that is not how the world operates, so from time to time I get a smack down. And then I take it personally, very personally. I brood about it for days and then I eventually build a bridge and get over it. I don't forget it that easily though, in the past I would NEvER forget any criticism that I got. I would store it all in the 'crap feelings' folder that I had stored away in my brain, which I kept under lock and key. Every now and then, a little slice of shit will seep out and make me underestimate myself again. Thankfully, I don't hang onto the negative stuff that much anymore; 99% of the time I keep it all in check, but I cannot deny that I still hate being criticized and that I generally don't really handle it very well.
I think that I am actually a pretty forgiving person most of the time, unless you push me too far or insult me too deeply, and then that's it for me. If that happens, I will literally slam the door in anyone's face; friend, family or foe. It's a total ice out, a full on shutdown of all interaction, and the door will not re-open ever again if I get to that point, no matter how hard you may try, I will never be back on board and we never have a friendship again. It is worth noting that you would have to really fuck me over for that to happen, but it has happened before, more than once or twice actually because I just cannot tolerate shady assholes in my life.
I would rather sever a toxic relationship than tolerate one, but in the workplace you don't get to have that luxury. In the workplace, you have to take the slaps and you have to suck them up, and that takes a lot of effort some days. However, over time I think that I have learnt to bounce back a lot faster from the criticisms and I've also learned to let the negative things roll off me like water off a duck's back, it is just so much easier than holding onto everything. So, I'm just gonna rub that slapped cheek a little and let it go, it's not really that big of a deal. I'm well aware that it's just my stupid pride that lets it sting as much as it does.
These types of things are great for checking in with your personal levels of resolve and your ability to weather less than pleasant tidings, but essentially I am just trying to find the positive, mostly they are just crap and when they come from someone that you work with they can make you lose your mojo in the workplace.
Places of business are notorious for slapping the confidence and ego off people, I have never had a job yet where someone didn't challenge me personally or try to assert their authority over me in a negative way, no job comes with a perfectly designed staff at your disposal. Most workplaces are actually very competitive and things can get pretty nasty, but mostly I don't get very many slaps where I work, just a sneaky one from time to time. Perhaps that is why they sting so badly, the lack of frequency and unpredictability could be what makes them so jarring.
In general though, I take criticism very, very badly. I can't stand it when someone has a poke at me, it really gets to me. I am not even a fan of constructive criticism, it's still bloody criticism isn't it? So I don't want to hear about it! I like to live in my own rose coloured bubble as much as I can, but everyone knows that is not how the world operates, so from time to time I get a smack down. And then I take it personally, very personally. I brood about it for days and then I eventually build a bridge and get over it. I don't forget it that easily though, in the past I would NEvER forget any criticism that I got. I would store it all in the 'crap feelings' folder that I had stored away in my brain, which I kept under lock and key. Every now and then, a little slice of shit will seep out and make me underestimate myself again. Thankfully, I don't hang onto the negative stuff that much anymore; 99% of the time I keep it all in check, but I cannot deny that I still hate being criticized and that I generally don't really handle it very well.
I think that I am actually a pretty forgiving person most of the time, unless you push me too far or insult me too deeply, and then that's it for me. If that happens, I will literally slam the door in anyone's face; friend, family or foe. It's a total ice out, a full on shutdown of all interaction, and the door will not re-open ever again if I get to that point, no matter how hard you may try, I will never be back on board and we never have a friendship again. It is worth noting that you would have to really fuck me over for that to happen, but it has happened before, more than once or twice actually because I just cannot tolerate shady assholes in my life.
I would rather sever a toxic relationship than tolerate one, but in the workplace you don't get to have that luxury. In the workplace, you have to take the slaps and you have to suck them up, and that takes a lot of effort some days. However, over time I think that I have learnt to bounce back a lot faster from the criticisms and I've also learned to let the negative things roll off me like water off a duck's back, it is just so much easier than holding onto everything. So, I'm just gonna rub that slapped cheek a little and let it go, it's not really that big of a deal. I'm well aware that it's just my stupid pride that lets it sting as much as it does.
PRIDE
Release Date: 2014
Rating: M
Running Time: 120 mins
More of a 'feel good' movie than a comedy, but certainly an enjoyable re-tell of the unlikely bond that occurred between the UK Miner Strikers and the Gay and Lesbian Equal Rights Movement during the 1980's. The Brits have a fantastic knack for producing uplifting crowd-pleaser films like this, and Pride will definitely leave you with a overwhelming desire to stand up and cheer.
Gay activists make an impact on the miners during their National Union of Mineworkers strike in the Summer of 1984, by raising lots of money to aid their plight. United by their oppression, the gays and the miners seek to make a difference and rise up against the haters, both locally and politically.
As you would expect, this union produces some obvious opportunities for joyful gay support, and also some hateful gay bashing, which is often a rather nasty side effect of LGBT films that are set in the 70's and 80's. However, for the most part, this is a really well thought out and tasteful depiction of a fascinating and inspirational piece of history.
FINAL SAY: Miners dig for coal, which produces power, which allows gay people like you to dance to Bananarama 'til 3 o'clock in the morning.
3.5 Chili Peppers
Release Date: 2014
Rating: M
Running Time: 120 mins
More of a 'feel good' movie than a comedy, but certainly an enjoyable re-tell of the unlikely bond that occurred between the UK Miner Strikers and the Gay and Lesbian Equal Rights Movement during the 1980's. The Brits have a fantastic knack for producing uplifting crowd-pleaser films like this, and Pride will definitely leave you with a overwhelming desire to stand up and cheer.
Gay activists make an impact on the miners during their National Union of Mineworkers strike in the Summer of 1984, by raising lots of money to aid their plight. United by their oppression, the gays and the miners seek to make a difference and rise up against the haters, both locally and politically.
As you would expect, this union produces some obvious opportunities for joyful gay support, and also some hateful gay bashing, which is often a rather nasty side effect of LGBT films that are set in the 70's and 80's. However, for the most part, this is a really well thought out and tasteful depiction of a fascinating and inspirational piece of history.
FINAL SAY: Miners dig for coal, which produces power, which allows gay people like you to dance to Bananarama 'til 3 o'clock in the morning.
3.5 Chili Peppers
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