Nathan talked about The Five Languages of Love, which is based on a book by Gary Chapman. Basically, it outlines the five main ways in which people give and receive love. The five areas are:
- Gift Giving
- Quality Time
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
Turns out that Craig and Seth both prefer physical touch as a vehicle for giving and receiving love, so there is certainly no lack of hug availability for me around here. I lean towards quality time for my mode of expressing and receiving love, which really makes a lot of sense to be honest. I am always organising events and outings for the people I love and I get a lot out of spending time with family and friends.
By understanding the way in which we love and prefer to be loved has been a bit of a game changer for me. I could tell Seth and Craig that I think they are amazing a hundred times over, when a good hug would actually mean so much more to them. And they can tell me that I am terrific all they like, but if they aren't giving me quality time, I am not going to be receptive to their modes of love expression.
Interesting stuff I think and something worth investigating, because we all just want to feel like we are loved and that we are giving love in the best way that we can as well, because we all know that love is a many splendored thing.
Release Date: 2012
Rating: MA 15+
Running Time: 104 mins
What if you could create your own love, invent someone perfect for you in every way? And what if you could control all of their feelings and reactions, play God and control their free will? What would that love look like?
When struggling novelist Calvin creates Ruby by simply writing about her on his typewriter, his entire life changes. However, Calvin not only wills Ruby into being, he controls everything that she is, he just has to write about what he desires for Ruby to be for it to become a reality.
Zoe Kazan who actually wrote the screenplay, also plays the role of Ruby opposite the very likable Paul Dano, and they have a wonderful on screen chemistry that is really believable.
Obviously this film is wrestling with the moral conundrum of control in relationships, and where one would draw the line if they had total control. It's fresh and beautifully presented, and considering it's context, it surprisingly doesn't deliver in a cheesy way at all. A worthy love story indeed.
FINAL SAY: The morals of inventing love.
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