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The Language of Love

25/5/2017

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I went to a seminar on Wednesday evening that was ran by a guy named Nathan Hulls. He is a motivational speaker and the seminar was about 'Understanding Teens: Their Fears, Their Questions and their 6 Core Needs.' I did get a few good takeaways from the seminar and even gleaned a bit of new information as well. 
Nathan talked about The Five Languages of Love, which is based on a book by Gary Chapman. Basically, it outlines the five main ways in which people give and receive love. The five areas are:
  • Gift Giving
  • Quality Time
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch 
According to this theory, every person has a primary love language and it is the way in which they express and receive love. You can take an online test at proprof.com that comprises of 30 questions that will help you to determine which style you lean towards. We all took the test to see which style that we each prefer, because knowing the styles of the people that you love is just as important as knowing your own mode. 
Turns out that Craig and Seth both prefer physical touch as a vehicle for giving and receiving love, so there is certainly no lack of hug availability for me around here. I lean towards quality time for my mode of expressing and receiving love, which really makes a lot of sense to be honest. I am always organising events and outings for the people I love and I get a lot out of spending time with family and friends. 
By understanding the way in which we love and prefer to be loved has been a bit of a game changer for me. I could tell Seth and Craig that I think they are amazing a hundred times over, when a good hug would actually mean so much more to them. And they can tell me that I am terrific all they like, but if they aren't giving me quality time, I am not going to be receptive to their modes of love expression.
Interesting stuff I think and something worth investigating, because we all just want to feel like we are loved and that we are giving love in the best way that we can as well, because we all know that love is a many splendored thing. 
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RUBY SPARKS 
Release Date: 2012
Rating: MA 15+
Running Time: 104 mins
What if you could create your own love, invent someone perfect for you in every way? And what if you could control all of their feelings and reactions, play God and control their free will? What would that love look like? 
When struggling novelist Calvin creates Ruby by simply writing about her on his typewriter, his entire life changes. However, Calvin not only wills Ruby into being, he controls everything that she is, he just has to write about what he desires for Ruby to be for it to become a reality. 
Zoe Kazan who actually wrote the screenplay, also plays the role of Ruby opposite the very likable Paul Dano, and they have a wonderful on screen chemistry that is really believable. 
Obviously this film is wrestling with the moral conundrum of control in relationships, and where one would draw the line if they had total control. It's fresh and beautifully presented, and considering it's context, it surprisingly doesn't deliver in a cheesy way at all. A worthy love story indeed. 
FINAL SAY: The morals of inventing love.
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Jennifer Yale
25/5/2017 20:22:13

I understand what you mean but on a different level. I have problems connecting with people in many of the ways described for different reason. Such as physicalcontact, most of thr time i feel forced to hug someone. I myself am the same as you. Quality time.

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Barb
26/5/2017 06:47:01

Thanks for your comments Jennifer, I appreciate your readership on my blog.
My daughter and her partner also turned out to be a quality time people as well, there are lots of us out there that prefer to spend time with loved ones over lots of hugs and kisses.

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Carmel Hanley
27/5/2017 09:51:51

Just giving a shout out to the three year anniversary of this wonderful site and blog.
Sad that this is a penned high five to recognise the achievements of the past three years when, like you Barb, spending some quality time on the couch at the 'Field of En' with some pretty awesome women, howling over delightful or dodgy or enlightening clips is far more preferable. To say I look forward to this annual event would be an understatement. Particularly at the moment as the aforementioned quality time is needed more than ever.
Congrats on the amazing upkeep of this blog.... the insightful, honest, tender and at times 'reality checking' comments you share.
I love that I have a quality 'go to' for movie recommendations at the tapping of a few keys, and that I can visit if I've missed my dose of Barb recently.
In celebration of Spicy Watch's three year anniversary I have to include the Team America montage parody - a bit of a nod to the on screen chemistry we recognised at last year's two year celebration - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pFrMLRQIT_k
The Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels Drinking Montage - just because I love the camera angles, speeding up and slowing down of the action.... and finally in the trio...

The life story montage in the movie UP - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PD7qi8VK_o

Pretty hard though as I so wanted to 'Not put Baby in the corner' with THAT scene..... cheese city.... let's face it that is often what the montage ends up being!

The montage in Footloose.... an 80s classic... I feel like that decade pretty much relied on the montage to tell the film's narrative.

And the classic training scene in Rocky has to get a mention, a classic!

...too hard to sift through... there are actually some pretty great examples out there!

Enjoy your weekend.... love your work and so grateful to have you in my life. (knowing this is NOT your language of love!)
XX

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