All of which were truly lovely, but nothing can compare to the actual event, the wedding ceremony and reception which were just so beautiful, so heartfelt and so perfect that I just couldn't get a smile off my face all day long. I have never loved or enjoyed a wedding, or another event for that matter, as much as I enjoyed my own daughter's wedding. I know that I didn't enjoy my own wedding nearly as much as Zoe and Ben's that's for sure. They had planned the most intimate, perfect setting and gathered together a handful of beautiful souls to share it with and it all felt so calm, relaxed and easy that even the photographer was shocked by everyone's high levels of zen.
At one point the photographer turned to me while Zoe was getting some preparation/ pre-wedding shots done and said, "could you please go and get into your outfit on now?" Even though I was still standing around in a T-shirt and jeans, I thought he meant Zoe, and was shocked when he said -"not her, you!" "Me?!?" I exclaimed, and his response made me laugh. He said "yeah, I think you have a wedding to go to in like an hour and a half, so as chilled out as everyone is around here, you will need to put on your outfit at some point!" Perhaps we were all a little too relaxed, but the photographer said the usual vibe at the hour before point of a wedding was usually a lot more manic and he wasn't used to everyone being so relaxed. He laughed and said that he was starting to panic for us because it was weird to have everything so zen.
Zoe and Ben were calm, all day long. And so was I, even though I was emcee for the event, I just never felt rattled. It was all so perfect. Perfect bride, perfect groom, perfect weather, perfect venue, perfect food, perfect guests and a totally perfect mood. And Ben and Zoe will never forget their special day, and not just because they declared their love for each other and pledged to support and cherish each other for the rest of their lives, but because they entered into a conscious commitment that goes way beyond that.
They've now chosen their life partner. They've chosen to been seen everyday as they are by each other, to share everyday together as it comes, to embrace the curiosity and uncertainty of life together and to validate each other’s hopes and dreams. They've chosen to be each others life witnesses from now and forever. And how beautiful is that?
And wonderful things come in the wake of big love, things like safety, comfort and transparency, and I cannot even begin to express how delighted it makes me and Craig to see that Zoe has found a love like that in Benjamin. As a parent it is really all you ever want for your children, for them to find true happiness in life.
And Zoe is not the only one hitting the jackpot in marrying Ben, because we have also been able to welcome a most warm, kind, generous and patient man into our lives along with Zoe. Ben has not only embraced all of the weirdness that comes with being in our family, he has also been willing to let his freak flag fly proudly along with us. We did not lose a daughter in Zoe marrying Ben, we gained another son and it's been a delight to welcome to him into our family and our lives also.
Yep, there is nothing like the wedding of your own child to make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, especially when it is as beautiful as Zoe and Ben's wedding day was. May their love, their joy and their zen be as timeless and wonderful as their wedding day was forever.
Release Date: 1996
Running Time: 120 mins
This modern adaptation of Shakespeare's classic play Romeo and Juliet is the most pleasing of the many attempts that have been made. Directed by Baz Luhrmann, Romeo + Juliet was his second film in The Red Curtain Trilogy, and Luhrmann shot to international fame off the back off this film, winning a lot of critic attention and awards for his efforts.
Everyone knows the story, it's as old as time. Two rival gangs, the Capulets and the Montagues, are at odds, and Romeo and Juliet throw a spanner in the works when they fall madly in love despite the fact that their families forbid it. Juliet is already promised to Paris making things even worse, and the two seem to be doomed from start to end.
This is the quintessential romance-tragedy, passions are running high and there is a lot at stake in the name of love. But Luhrmann's portrayal is so much more than just another Shakespearean adaptation, he has gone to painstaking efforts to keep the story fresh and alive. He has left all of the original dialect in, adding stark contrast to his work, and pushing his talented cast to really deliver. The soundtrack is a fabulous mix of funky and alternative songs which certainly adds a lot to the overall feel of the movie.
Girls everywhere were falling head over heels for Leonardo DiCaprio's powerful performance of Romeo, and Claire Danes is painfully beautiful as Juliet. However, my favourites were John Leguizamo as Tybalt and Harold Perrineau as Mercutio who both added some much needed depth and humour. It's a really well put together piece and it's worthy of a least one viewing in everyone's lifetime.
FINAL SAY: Two households, both alike in dignity.
3.5 Chilli Peppers